Her sister had a tragic accident three years ago and was left disabled. Now her mother won't let her announce good news because she's afraid it will make her sister sad. » TwistedSifter

When a person is affected by a tragic accident, it can have dramatic effects on the lives of everyone around him.

So how does someone deal with it when every time they try to deliver good news, it is downplayed because of their sister's tragedy?

That's exactly what happens in this story, so let's take a look.

I, a 26-year-old woman, have an older sister, a 32-year-old woman, who had a tragic accident three years ago that left her paralyzed from the waist down.

It was hard for everyone, but especially for her.

Our family rallied around her. We helped her as much as we could, and I was there every step of the way because I love her so much.

Wow, that sounds terrible.

But since the accident, I feel like I don't deserve good things to happen to me, or at least I'm not allowed to talk about it.

Every time something positive happens in my life, my family rejects me.

When I got a promotion at work last year, I was so happy and excited to tell them.

I thought my family would be happy for me, but when I went to tell them the news, my mother took me aside and told me not to do it now because my sister had had a rough day.

In the end, I kept it to myself.

Surely they would be happy about such a big event.

8 months ago my boyfriend proposed to me.

When I told them, my mother immediately changed the subject and later told me that my sister was depressed because of her own marital problems.

It's as if everything good in my life is an insult to my sister's situation.

This happened a few days ago.

I saved for years to buy my first new car.

I finally made it and I was so excited. I thought my family would be happy for me.

So I decided to tell them.

As soon as the words left my mouth, the room was dead silent.

You're really taking this too far.

My mother whispered to me, “This is not the right time. Think of your sister.”

My sister looked so sad and I immediately felt like the worst person in the world.

I just couldn't take it anymore and said, “Can't I share something good about my life? I thought you would all be happy for me.” No one knew what to say and I left the house.

I have never done that before. Now I am full of regret and confusion.

I love my sister and never want to hurt her, but I feel like nothing good can happen to me.

It gets to the point where I feel like I'm walking on eggshells all the time.

I understand that my sister's life has changed drastically. I sincerely support her and have always been there for her.

It certainly does!

But sometimes I just want to share my own life.

I feel so guilty for even thinking like I'm selfish or inconsiderate.

Her husband and even my parents openly talk about things about their lives and no one seems to mind.

But as a younger sister, I am not allowed to say anything good in front of her so as not to hurt her feelings.

I get it. Really.

I understand that she is going through a lot right now and I don't want to add to her pain.

But I feel like I'm not allowed to be happy around my family.

Now I know I owe my sister an apology for my reaction.

I never want to make them sad, but I don't know how to deal with my family.

I don't feel like I should apologize to them.

And honestly, I don't think I'll tell them anything in the future.

Is this possible?

Oops! That's not fair to her and I can't imagine it's good for her sister either.

Let's see what the commentators have to say.

Yes, what does the sister think about all this?

This person summed up the situation well.

Exactly, an apology is not necessary.

Hopefully her outbreak is an opportunity for change.

This commenter has an important question.

Come on, mom, you have more than one child to take care of!

This is honestly a very sad and frustrating story.

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