Woman cries after job interview because her boss told her she probably had problems with men

There is hardly anything more disappointing than being invited to an interview for your dream job and then discovering the horrific conditions in the company.

A Gen Z woman who goes by the name iz posted a TikTok excitedly sharing the news of her confirmed interview for her “dream job” at a ketamine clinic and asked her followers to help manifest her chance at the job.

Unfortunately, she had to cry during her interview for her dream job because of an unprofessional boss.

When she returned to the app the next day to give a report on the interview, her makeup was smeared with tears.

“This is me two and a half hours after my interview, still completely exhausted,” said iz. “I want to tell you a few things that were said and done in that 'interview' that caused me to get in my car and sob, even though I was invited back next week.”

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From the beginning of the interview, the boss made “unprofessional” comments and remarks. One of the first things he noticed was her makeup, since no one else in her workplace wore makeup. He then told her to “look straight ahead” while he looked on awkwardly.

“He gets up from his chair, comes two inches from my face and looks me in the eyes for 30 seconds,” she explained, confused. “What was the purpose of that?”

He then asked her if she was nervous about the interview. After she said yes, he surprisingly asked her why she was nervous because he was going to find out something about her.

“I was stunned,” iz said. “I thought to myself, 'I'm not afraid you're going to find out. I'm nervous because this is a really exciting position for me that has everything I'm looking for, and I'm just nervous that I'm not going to get it.'”

The interview only got worse when her boss asked her personal questions and made unfounded assumptions about her.

“It gets worse,” she said. “Instead of asking me anything related to my suitability for the job, my previous experience in the social sector or what I want to learn, he asks me about my trauma, about my family and things that have nothing to do with me getting this job.”

She explained that she tried to be honest and answer his questions authentically; despite her unusual connection to the workplace, he began to make bold assumptions about her.

He accused her of having “a lot of problems with men” and talked about the animalistic nature of men. He then claimed that she was “impatient” and probably knew what she wanted from men and would easily dump anyone who didn't meet her expectations.

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He made further assumptions about her character, calling her “too lenient” and arguing that she is likely to let others back into her life after they have wronged her. “You really shouldn't do that,” he had the nerve to tell her. He later asked her if she was married and then informed her that she would not get married until she was about 28-35.

Iz was confused and upset by the encounter, but she thanked him for his willingness to get to know her as a candidate, even if he had only formed his own opinion of her.

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Although the interview was extremely unpleasant, iz remained calm and composed.

Ketamine clinics are known for offering ketamine therapy to people suffering from depression, anxiety, PTSD and chronic pain, among other conditions. He claimed he knew she was wondering if she could try the ketamine herself, which is illegal, and that she subsequently stopped him from doing so.

“I said, 'No, sir, I just understand the relief it brings to patients and I want to see that in action; I want to be a part of it,'” she explained. He interrupted her, seeming to doubt her claim.

“I had a smile on my face the whole time, I kept my composure and I'm so proud of myself for doing it because inside I was a complete mess,” she explained.

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“The only reason I can think of why he makes me feel this way and asks me these questions is because he wants to see how I respond to uncomfortable, challenging situations because I know we'll be working with clients who have a lot of mental health issues,” she concluded.

But regardless of the psychological reasons the boss used to motivate his interview tactics, the woman argued that it was highly unreasonable and unnecessary to put her in such a situation during an interview.

It's important to trust your gut feeling during an interview.

According to a survey by Career Builder, two-thirds of employees admitted to taking a job and later regretting it – probably because they didn't trust their gut feeling during the interview.

Experts say it's important for candidates to remember that they're talking to both the employer and the hiring manager themselves, whether it's a dream job or not. That means you shouldn't be afraid to ask relevant questions about the company culture, pay attention to how you're treated and the “vibe” of the boss and other employees.

If a job doesn't feel right or, as in iz's case, you cry during the interview, it might not be your dream job after all.

The interview was more of a personal interrogation than an assessment of her qualifications for the position.

The boss's conspicuous behavior during the interview suggests that unprofessional behavior is probably taking place behind the scenes.

It is questionable what his true intentions were and how his questions about her personal life related to the interview. Even if he wanted to assess her ability to handle high stress or unusual circumstances due to the nature of the work, he should have done so with more grace.

Apparently his goal was to dictate the conversation and take advantage of the woman's naivety rather than seriously considering her for the position.

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Francesca Duarte is a writer on YourTango's news and entertainment team based in Orlando, FL. She covers lifestyle, human issues, adventure and spirituality.